Rediscovering yourself as a Mom, Wife & Business Owner

Have you ever paused and thought, Is this really it? Not out of ungratefulness, but with a quiet sense of wondering. A voice in the back of your mind asking, Where did I go in all of this?

That’s where I’ve found myself lately—stuck in this space between being a mom, being a wife, running a business, and rediscovering who I am under all the layers of responsibility.

It’s a strange and uncomfortable place to be. On the surface, everything seems fine—sometimes even great. I have a family I adore, a business I’ve poured my heart into, and a life full of purpose. But beneath all that, there’s this nagging feeling that something is missing.

And the truth is, I think that “something” is me.

If you’re here too, feeling a little lost or unsure, I want you to know that you’re not alone. This is how I’m navigating this chapter—one messy, honest step at a time.

Acknowledging Where I Am Right Now

For so long, I was on autopilot. My life revolved around schedules, deadlines, and making sure everyone else had what they needed. It wasn’t that I didn’t love my family or my work, the problem is I gave everything to my family and work. Somewhere in the midst of all of it, I forgot about me.

It took me a while to admit that I felt stuck. As a mom and a business owner, it’s easy to feel like you should just keep going. There’s always something to do, someone to take care of, and rarely time to pause. But the truth is, you can’t keep pouring from an empty cup.

The first thing I had to do was give myself permission to stop and really look at my life. To ask myself:

• What’s working?

• What isn’t?

• Where am I holding on to things that no longer serve me?

These questions weren’t easy to answer, and honestly, I’m still working through some of them. But simply acknowledging where I am has been freeing. It’s helped me realize that feeling stuck isn’t a failure—it’s the ultimate season for growth.

Reconnecting with Who I Am Outside of My Roles

For years, I’ve been “Mom”, “Wife” and “Boss,” and while I’m proud of all titles, I’ve started to wonder: Who am I outside of that? What did I love before life became so full? What dreams did I have before my schedule revolved around everyone else’s needs?

Reconnecting with myself has been a slow, intentional process. Some days, it’s as simple as sitting with my coffee in silence before the house wakes up. Other days, it’s about journaling and letting my thoughts spill onto the page without judgment. It’s been about praying, reading devotionals and the bible. Leaning on God to help find me again. But most of all, trusting God will help lead me to the right path.

And sometimes, it’s about doing things that feel indulgent—like taking a walk alone, picking up a book I’ve wanted to read, or saying no to something that doesn’t align with my values. These small moments of self-discovery are helping me find the person I used to be while giving me permission to evolve into someone new.

Redefining Happiness in This Season

For so long, I thought happiness was tied to achieving big milestones—hitting a revenue goal, getting through a busy week with the kids, or checking off a long to-do list. But lately, I’ve realized that happiness isn’t something “out there.” It’s not a finish line I’ll cross when everything is perfect.

Happiness, I’m learning, is found in the quiet, everyday moments. It’s watching my kids laugh together. It’s finishing a client project that I’m proud of. It’s letting myself rest without guilt.

I’ve also started asking myself:

• What truly brings me joy right now?

• What can I let go of to create more space for the things I love?

• How can I show up for myself the way I show up for others?

Redefining happiness has meant letting go of the idea that I have to “do it all” to be enough. It’s about finding balance—not perfection—and giving myself grace along the way.

In shifting my mindset, I’ve realized that trying to “do it all” is only bringing me more heartache. It leaves me feeling like a failure because I know I’m only giving half of what I’m truly capable of to everything. I’m stretched so thin that no one is getting the best of me.

Rediscovering Passion for My Career

Running a business can be exhausting, especially when you’re also managing a family. Somewhere along the way, the thing I loved—the thing that once lit me up—started to feel like just another obligation.

I knew I had to reconnect with my passion, but I didn’t know where to start. So, I went back to the beginning. I asked myself:

• Why did I start this business in the first place?

• What do I love most about my work?

• What parts of my business feel draining, and how can I change them?

For me, the answer was simple but powerful: I love helping people. That’s what lights me up. And when I focus on that, everything else feels lighter.

Now, I’m making changes to align my business with what truly matters to me. I’m delegating more, letting go of energy-draining clients, and allowing myself to dream bigger than I ever have before.

A key change I’m making is setting boundaries for myself and my business. Without those boundaries, I’ve found myself overwhelmed and burned out, to the point where I’ve completely lost the passion for what I’ve spent the last 12 years building.

Trusting the Process

Here’s the hardest part: I don’t have it all figured out. Some days, I feel like I’m making progress. Other days, I feel like I’m right back where I started.

But I’ve come to understand that transitions aren’t about reaching a destination. They’re about learning, growing, and trusting that each step—no matter how small—is leading you toward something greater.

I’m giving myself permission to take things one day at a time. To celebrate small wins. To rest when I need to. And to remind myself that this season is just that—a season. It’s not forever, and it doesn’t define me.

What About You?

If you’re in a season of transition—trying to find yourself, rediscover your joy, or figure out your next step—I see you. It’s not easy to balance everything and still make space for yourself, but you deserve that space.

What’s one small step you can take today to reconnect with yourself? Maybe it’s journaling for five minutes. Maybe it’s saying no to something that doesn’t serve you. Or maybe it’s simply admitting that you feel stuck.

Wherever you are, know this: You’re allowed to want more. You’re allowed to grow. And you’re allowed to take up space in your own life.

You’ve got this—and I’m right here with you. Let’s figure it out together.